It can be difficult to know what to do after a death in the family. Many people struggle when their spouses lose relatives or friends and they are not sure what to do about it. What is the right way to handle this kind of grief? People can be seriously affected by grief. We know this well at Roberts Funeral Home because we have been in the funerary business for a long time. We offer cremation services, funeral service planning, and even pre-planning. Chemung, NY, has a small population but lots of community spirit. With the Chemung River at the south of the town, it provides beauty and kind folks who are always willing to help a friend. This is why we are so adamant in helping our clients.
Time and time again, we have seen members of the Chemung, NY, community struggle to offer comfort to a spouse who is in mourning. This is why we have become dedicated to providing guidance to those who do not know how to help a loved one. There are a number of things to keep in mind when helping a grieving spouse.
All Say Crying is Necessary
It can be tempting to try to distract your spouse or somehow try to make them feel better so that they stop crying, but the best thing you can do is allow them to cry for as long as necessary. Crying is an essential part of the grieving process and can be highly cathartic. Be sure to let your spouse know, in actions or words, that it is okay to cry in front of you. You want them to feel at ease and to not think they have to hide their emotions from you.
Not everyone who is grieving is ready to talk, but it is important that your loved one know that you are there to listen at any time. If they do reach out to you, try to just listen and offer sympathy for what they are feeling. It is best not to try to inject too many of your own experiences into the conversation unless your loved one asks for it. You never want to overwhelm them or make them feel as if their grief is not as important as what you went through.
Offer to Help with Practical Matters
After a death, your spouse will probably feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to be done. This is where you can really make a difference. Offer to make the arrangements for the funeral or memorial, and do some of the common, everyday things like going to the supermarket, running errands, and anything else that needs to be done in the house. This seems like a minor thing, but it is actually a great way to help a loved one who is grieving. All will suggest the same thing.
It is natural for people to want to offer their condolences after a death, but this can be stressful for someone who is grieving. To help your spouse, you should also consider becoming their spokesperson. Try to deal with all phone calls that relate to the death and greet guests that stop by to offer their condolences. Simple actions like these will give your spouse the kind of room they need to start healing and will ensure that no one is offended.
Dealing with grief always means added stress. Stress impacts everyone and it can leave serious health issues if it is not handled correctly. You can do something about this. Many people we know in Chemung, NY, offer to provide massages to their spouses, backrubs, or anything else that could offer relief from the debilitating effects of stress. Embracing your loved one also helps, as can offering to prepare hot baths for them. Anything you can do that could relieve stress is something you should consider.
Someone in mourning might not want to talk. Grief makes everything just a bit more difficult, so having a conversation might not be something your loved one wants. Do not feel as if you have to fill in that silence with chatter. Sitting in silence can be therapeutic for many who feel overwhelmed by their emotions. This silence does not mean that your spouse is not mourning or that they do not need your support, it just means that they need some quiet to get their thoughts and emotions in order before they can get back to a more normal routine.
Knowing what to expect from a grieving spouse is very important. It can be helpful for both of you to understand what the best ways of helping your loved one can be. At Roberts Funeral Home, we are aware of just how worrying it can be to see a spouse grieving and we are here to provide help for everyone needing services. We even have contact with counselors that deal with all of this. We offer quality services, which include:
- Funeral and Memorial Services
Contact us, Roberts Funeral Home at 279 Main Street Wellsburg, NY 14894. We are right in the main street, so we are easy to find. Call (607) 734-7811 now.